Utokia Langley says:

this was way cute, I gotta spread this around, I was over here cracking up and shaking my head to agree at the same time! The ladies were down to earth and right on point!! This is awesome!

CHERISE says:

LADIES, THIS WAS WONDERFUL!! YOU MAY HAVE TO DO A PART 2! KEEP UP THE GOOD WORK!!

Phil Turner Jr. says:

Excellent segment! As a relationship coach, I hear these things often from women and rightfully so because it is how most feel. Let me go on record and say right up front that sex should not be rationed or used as a weapon and this is increasing becoming the case. After researching over 12,000 men for my book, this is the dominate issue facing relationship problems and has bypassed money issues based on my research. It is the number one reason men give when questioned about cheating (lack of sex).

There were a lot of good stuff in this segment and men should help his woman and connect. But here is something that must be considered: there are ground rules and most are not willing to put in the work to understand male and feminine energy and how gender role is current developing in this 21st century. Most of these concepts and frustration in this segement are based on how we have been socialize in this new era and the decision most African American familes make to live this so-called abundance life based on material gains (keeping up with the Jones) among other things instead of creating a great emotionally sound relationship and environment.

This is not to anger anyone but in the African American community, it is increasingly becoming very difficult to find real women because women have become men. She has been socialized in a male dominated model and was trained to excel, get that A in school and taught to be right, that there is no difference in the gender and that she can do just as much or better than men. She can solve and fix her own problems. This means that you are trained to think like men in this left-brain educational system while losing your feminine self.

Men nowadays are simply confused! He will ask for your directions because he knows that if it is not done your way he will get blasted! I’m told this everyday by men. But how can women be any other way since this is how she was trained all of her life to be right!

Men tell me every day that they feel there is a competitor in his home instead of coming home to a soft landing away from all of the push and pull he experience every day. Things like how some white women are still grabbing their purses when he is in the elevator with her or being watch and feared by others even while wearing his suit.

I can go on and on but here is what has to happen. Women have to get back to being intuitive and using her God given inward power instead of trying to control her environment and be right. Men have to pay attention, understand your world and connect with his woman. However please know this. If your man is loaded with passion and you won’t give him any for whatever reason, it will be at the risk of your relationship and this is simply a fact.

just_a_dad says:

“If momma is unhappy, then everyone is unhappy?” How selfish is that?? Unfortunately, life has its ups and downs. If something has made you unhappy, the fact that you go home and inflict your sadness on your loved ones family is not something you should be proud of. It’s damn selfish. It’s a child, throwing a tantrum. Why on earth would your mate want to encourage this kind of behavior?

Happiness comes from within. But instead, you present your mate with a laundry list of things he has to do to provide you with happiness. No hint of a notion that perhaps you should focus on yourself. So shallow. And you think you are entitled to all this service because you might allow him to touch you. You are sick. The attitude and expectations you display here are the exact reason that relationships are so difficult. You are NOT HELPING, you are PART OF THE PROBLEM.